After the latest and most tragic news of the Charlottesville riots, I have seen many posts on social media about personal beliefs, opinions on the subject at hand and what I wanted to focus on mostly, my friends who are hurting. People who always do good in the world but their hard work and positive vibes tend to be overshadowed by the thought that the world is becoming this dark place with no hope.
My cousin Ginny posted this quote and I felt connected. I have so many friends who already ARE warriors of love, justice and freedom. They continue to fight against the norm and for those who have no voice or their voice is suppressed out of fear from what others will think. Growing up my mom always taught me to stand up for what I believe in and fight for those who cant. I will no doubt pass those qualities on to Ryan but I also want to be real about whats going on in this generation we live in.
No quote, no feeling of mine and no “millennial” thing I post will change the world. I know that. I also know from experience and life that love is a language. A feeling, and a gift. You give others your love because you want too. You do it because it is the right thing to do when you feel strongly about something. I give my love to others because I was taught to do that. I also give compassion, grace, differences in opinions and beliefs because it is the right thing to do.
What I see now is the same thing I learned at a young age, we must give each other at this time love, grace and understanding. We may not agree on everything but one thing we have to come to an agreement on is every one has a story. Take the time to learn about your neighbor, your friend and your loved ones. Ask why they are hurting, and try to understand without judgement. You may learn more about yourself than you know already.
What I see and what Ryan will see:
I have a friend who has a strong Muslim background, a great sense of humor and loves the same sex. I love him dearly and support his lifestyle because to me its the best thing a friend can do.
I have two friends who are married, again same sex, they are the best friends a girl could have. Without hesitation they are there when my family needs them and love my child.
I have a friend who speaks out about what she is passionate about, no matter what others think. She is bold, strong and true to her self.
I have a girlfriend who has bad anxiety. She needs my friendship as I need hers. We balance each other out and help on emotional levels that others could not understand.
I know adults who voted for our President. Supported his campaign and currently do not agree with some of his stances. I love them the same even though we have that difference in opinion.
I have African American friends whose LIVES do matter and I can not imagine what they must feel every day while all this crazy is going on in the world. What I can offer them is my heart and my thoughts of knowing that together our inter racial friendship is beautiful and real.
I have mom friends who parent their children different than I do Ryan. What works for them does not work for me sometimes but I still love them.
What I see are good people.
Lastly I have a group of friends here in Raleigh that would do anything for each other. They come from all backgrounds: straight, gay, black, white, male, female, religions all over the place and the one thing I SEE is a friend. A person that would jump to your aid when you need it most and although yes realistic about what they see in front of them STILL LOVE YOU THE SAME, unwavering and endearing.
I still see beauty in this world we live in and I hope for Ryan’s sake others can do the same.